Some may have noticed my summer hiatus from the Diaryofanut blog. It has not been intentional, rather it just seems that life kind of got in the way of life, and I simply found myself unable to focus on my diaryofanut writing. If I am honest with myself, I would have to blame it all on my “obsessive” need to read, and the subsequent “compulsive” need to comment, on far too many political FB posts. After which I would feel as though the wiring inside my brain had short-circuited much like the electrical grid when its circuits become overloaded. As today marks the 46th anniversary of the historical union of DH (dear husband) and TGW (the good wife), I feel called to re-engage with the blogosphere by republishing a post from several years ago.
Memory can only tell us what we were,
in the company of those we loved;
it cannot help us find what each of us, alone, must now become.
Yet no person is really alone;
those who live no more, echo still within our thoughts and words,
and what they did has become woven into what we are.
~ Jewish prayer
This week I have been on a bit of a sentimental journey as today is the 42nd anniversary of the day when the “glass half-full” wed the “glass half-empty” and an incredible journey was begun. I have countless memories of the “good, the bad and the ugly” (which brings to mind the actor, Clint Eastwood…..which brings to mind an empty chair…which brings to mind a certain political convention……but for today, I will stay on topic, so that you may all rest easy!! LOL). The little strips of typewritten paper which I inserted above were several of thirty-eight which Crick had attached to thirty-eight roses he had placed throughout the house to be discovered by me when I had returned home work to celebrate our anniversary four years ago. Without a doubt, this was the single most romantic idea he had ever conceived!!! As you can see from the “new-found political activism” mention, the year was 2008……the year I became, not just any “nut”, but a ““right-wing nut!!! And of course, you will notice the words “stubbornness” and “ways you get mad” (I do believe, he just might have been recalling the “King’s Island Main Street incident”!!!………which, I must confess, was unfortunately not an isolated event!). I am quite sure that Peggy and Mark will take particular note of the “NOT my fishing and camping partner”, for no matter how awesome Crick tried to make the idea of camping out in a hot, stuffy tent, sleeping all too close to terra firma, among the creepy, crawling insects, the squirrels and raccoons, and those pesky, chirping birds; I have always, always, always preferred the creature comforts of home. And foremost among those thirty-eight for which Crick was expressing his gratitude, were his children and grandchildren, for whom we both always, always, always agreed were our greatest blessings.
As I was looking through some pictures, I came across the lease for our very first apartment which was on North High Street just up the road from St. Michael’s where Crick graduated from grade school. Along with the lease I also discovered that I had kept our first checkbook ledger and thought that, as one of the slips of paper above indicates, I was the family “financier”, I should share how far $400/month salary would take you back in 1970. I was struck not just by the fact that our rent was only $100/month, but that our very first check was to Columbia Gas for $2.56. Looking further down the list I took particular note that there was a check written to Ohio State University for $255.00 which was to pay for Crick’s tuition for fall quarter that year!!! Today, that amount would hardly cover the cost of one book! I also noticed that a check had been written to Agler-Davidson (a once popular sporting goods store) and now recall that the amount was to cover the cost of some football equipment as Crick and a couple of my brothers had this cockamamie idea that they would join a local semi-pro football league which was being tried out in Columbus. Crick and Johnny played for the “Blue Angels”……………what? you’ve never heard of them?????? Not surprising, the league went bust shortly thereafter, but what I do remember is that there was this little tiny bit of a………. dare I say……….. “discussion” between the newly wedded, blissful couple about the wisdom of spending money on something so unnecessary as football equipment!! So now, you all know why I became the “financier”!! LOL I just know that Crick is pacing back and forth up there in the heavens telling anyone who will listen to him that he knew this would happen one day………..that my hanging on to letters and incriminating pieces of the past would come back to haunt him. I still have in my possession, almost three years worth of letters that he wrote to me when he was in the Army……..Fort Knox, Fort Sill, Fort Carson and Korea……….yep, whenever he remembered my box of his letters, he would go on and on about how I should get rid of them because, you know, they were just dust collectors and a lot of ancient history. Welllllllllllll, I have always loved history and now one of these days I am just going to have to re-read all of those letters and really tick Crick off!!!! :)
I actually have been on a mission of sorts the past two days to put together some pictures from forty-two years ago, as my own small way of honoring this day and all of the memories attached to it. And as I was sorting through the various photos, and a few of the cards that I had kept of anniversaries past, I remembered something. One year, probably twenty years ago (gosh was 1990 that long ago???), Crick and I had surprisingly presented each other with the very same gift!! Now this is even more remarkable because we did not always exchange gifts as money was usually tight (due in part to a very stingy financier!!!). This particular year however, we shockingly presented each other with…………………a cassette (CD’s were just becoming popular, but we were obviously not on the cutting edge of new technology !!!) of a hit song by Linda Ronstadt and Aaron Neville titled “Don’t Know Much”. It seemed to touch us both in the same way about how we each viewed our relationship………and so I listened to it again for the first time in quite a while and realized how perfectly it suited us. I decided to see if I could put the pictures and the music together and after a lot (A LOT!!) of trial and error this is how it turned out. (click the arrow on lower right hand corner of video for full screen)
P.S. Remember that last wedding picture in the video?? This was a re-enactment forty years later……………………………….you just can’t account for “maturity” LOL!!!
8 thoughts on “Don’t Know Much”
Don’t know what to say except, that was amazing! He’s so missed. I do have to say though, I find it pretty funny that you are able to haunt him…most would think that a little backward, but it really makes perfect sense! :) Have a good day Mare.
I kind of think I like the idea of “haunting” Crick !!! LOL
I,like Christine, don’t have the words to express what a beautiful testament that was to the sacrament of your and Crick’s life together. Made me smile and cry at the same time! So many people, along with Crick I miss soooo much. I am grateful, though for those who still walk with me on our own journey home. Love and prayers, Ce This is probably sappy but I blame you for it!:-)
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You have been listening to too many Obama speeches…………..but in this case I will humbly accept the “blame” :)!
By the way, Happy Haunting!:-}
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WHAT!!! I read your post again and I thought my comments were going to your email, now everyone knows I should not be allowed to touch technology! Sorry folks, please feel free to shake your heads in pity for me! I am done now!
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Good grief, Mary Margaret, you made my eyes leak. No fair! What a beautiful testament to your marriage. I miss him too.
I miss my DAD – ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS!!!